We’ve all failed at things in life. It’s only natural to fail. Some people live their lives full of fear of failing. That’s a lot of ‘f’ words! I digress… Anyway, I wanted to talk about fear and failure. My mama always taught me not to care what other people think. This has definitely served me well in my confidence over the years, until it came to owning my own business. There’s just something about having to promote or sell yourself that can paralize you with fear and therein lies my biggest failure.
My biggest failure was not believing enough in myself to have the courage to fail. What if everyone saw me try something and fail? Would people think I was a loser? Would people think I wasn’t a legitamate business owner? Would people think I was just a dreamer without any sense of business?
Could I make it in a creative industry? Would my family take me seriously?
Throughout my career, I’ve battled the voice of negativity, fear, and being afraid to fail, but it wasn’t until I was laid off of my corporate job in 2010 that I decided to ignore those voices and that fear and trudge ahead. I had been the “weekend warrior” working my corporate job during the week and doing portrait sessions and weddings on the weekends, but it was comfortable. My dream was to be full time with my business and then when the opportunity came, I froze in fear… I didn’t have an excuse anymore. I didn’t have a reason to not be successful because now I had the time to focus on it full time. We moved back to Jacksonville from Chicago and I knew I had to get past my fear of failure.
Here I am, almost 6 years later, looking back, so thankful that I chose to overcome my biggest fear, which, ultimately, was my biggest failure… Learning to choose to believe in myself and be comfortable with knowing failing a thousand times, especially in the public eye, before I’d have one success was not only normal, but that it would make me take risks that needed to be taken to get where I wanted to be. Some paid off, some didn’t, but I stand here, going on 8 years in business (March 24th is the anniversary!) realizing that I turned my biggest fear into my biggest asset. Learn to take risks. Learn to fail. Be ok with failing. It will not only require you to do better, but it will make you that much closer to your success.